Dominatrix of the New Era – we talk about sex work in Poland

Dominatrix of New Era – we talk about sex work in Poland

Sex work has witnessed an incredible metamorphosis during the past two years. As in every other industry, coronavirus restrictions have seen many sex workers switch to online work. But that’s not the end of the story. The pandemic had a paradigm-shifting impact on the industry, which not only had to change its working model but also experienced a surge in popularity. The wave of layoffs that we’ve seen in a number of sectors, followed by The Great Resignation, led many people to join the sex-work industry.

At the same time, in the past two years, we’ve seen many changes in the legal framework of the sex industry. At the beginning of 2020, an Ontario court judge in Canada ruled that prohibitions on advertising, procuring, and materially benefiting from someone else’s sexual services were violations of the “freedom of expression” and “security of the person” as defined in the Canadian constitution. In 2021, the Michigan County Prosecutor’s Office announced that their office would no longer prosecute consensual sex work. This year, Belgium became the first country in Europe to decriminalise sex work.

However, these are only a few examples of change towards recognition of sex work, making it safer for all parties involved. At the same time, in many countries, the sex industry continues to be taboo, making it impossible for sex workers to pay taxes or apply for social or pension benefits. This is exactly the situation in Poland, where sex work continues to be criminalized.

Today we bring back one of the most important conversations we have published in Hectic Magazine. In it, we talk about the reality of sex work in Poland with an experienced representative of the industry. Her unique perspective allows us to comprehend the complexities of sex work during the pandemic in this conservative and often close-minded country.


Józefina: I have been diagnosed with agoraphobia, or fear of being in open spaces, and an anxiety disorder with depressive episodes for a good couple of years. As you can imagine, it has always been difficult for me in a so-called “normal” job. I worked as a waitress for a while and it was OK, but then my mental health deteriorated more and going out has become a real challenge. For about three years, I didn’t work at all. I’ve spent this period trying to put myself together.

I convinced myself that I too wanted to work in the same way as the people I followed on social media. Finally, last October, I found that this is the perfect job for me: I don’t have to get up at seven, leave the house in a hurry, and be out of the house by seven-thirty. For me, leaving the house or contact with strangers causes panic attacks. In this job, I’m in a safe environment and I don’t have to force myself to do anything.

I’m wondering what your work looks like on a daily basis.

My work requires a strong push within myself to have that daily schedule. It all depends on the day. What I do is, for example, I plan everything so that one day I work and one day I rest. I need to let my body rest. It is, to be honest, a physically tiring job. When I work, the day looks like this: I get up at ten o’clock, drink coffee, do my makeup, wash up and so on. A little pleasure! (Laughter) Then I sit on the phone and wait for someone to call or text me. It’s usually people on the run, especially for shows. Working on two fronts, I combine being a dominatrix and working on-camera, so if I have an appointment for a session it’s usually an hour or two hours in advance. Although there are also people who make appointments, for example, two days in advance. If not, I’m just on the phone and when someone calls I make an appointment with them; either for a show or a session.

Then there’s the “side job.” Sex calls, text messages and video recording are combined with shows. Most often I make an appointment for a session, and then I prepare everything I will need right away, because I make an appointment an hour in advance. On the other hand, if someone calls about a show, I usually make an appointment in five minutes, just to have time to get dressed in lingerie. Usually these are very specific people who are determined that they want a show here and now, they just want to get off and that’s it.

It actually sounds pretty complex.

To be honest, I enjoy it. I’ve always been interested in sexuality. I also liked my body. And I always liked working with body, whether it’s my own or someone else’s. One of my dreams is to do a massage course to understand more about our physicality. This is, in my opinion, extremely interesting material to work with. 

So mentally it doesn’t tend to tire me out. I try to keep my work hygienic, so I have time for respite. Physically it can tire me out. If I have a session, however, it is an hour of physical work. To put it in very graphic terms, it looks like I’m beating someone for an hour, and this can actually tire. It’s the same with shows. I don’t do it when my body is ready, I just do it totally on the run. Especially when I have such a day that I have show after show for two or three hours.

So you also see people face to face?

Yes, just at the sessions. I have such a limit that I wouldn’t be able to undress in front of someone, or have sex with someone to whom I don’t feel some kind of chemistry. There are people who work that way, and I respect that a lot, but that’s just my limit. On the other hand, when it comes to dominance, here I have no problem with it. I’m dressed, it’s not sexual for me in that way becouse no one touches my body. 

I imagine the pandemic must have changed your schedule.

It changed both ways, so to speak. As for the domination sessions, the demand for them has decreased a lot. So much so that now I have three/four sessions a week, whereas I used to have, for example, two a day.

When it comes to online work, on the other hand, it flew up. People are sitting at home and there are more clients for shows, texting and so on. For the first six months I worked at Show Up and in the first phase of the pandemic there were a lot of new people there. A lot of people who had lost their jobs and just wanted to make some money for themselves. This, in turn, caused my audience to drop.

That’s when I moved to private shows. I added an ad on Roxie because they introduced a new category – phone sex. This included shows, videos, etc. When I started there were a lot of clients. Then it relaxed a bit in terms of government restrictions, so I had more live customers. Then it relaxed a bit in the context of government restrictions, so I had more live customers and fewer for shows. Now there is growth again.

From the sessions alone I wouldn’t be able to make a living these days, as far as “online” goes. In the beginning, i.e.: before the pandemic, I was able to make a living from sessions alone and earn rent in a week, or even less. Now it is definitely less certain.

For some the pandemic has become an opportunity to slow down. How did it affect you, personally?

When it started in Poland, my fears jumped to a level that completely overwhelmed me. I have the impression that a lot of people began to have mental problems and those who were already struggling with something before experienced even worse deterioration. Then I started to get used to the whole situation. At the present moment, I’m already used to how it all looks. 

What would you like to do next in terms of developing your career?

I would like to develop further in sex work. I feel strongly about it. As for more specific plans, I would like to start my own website, related to domination in general. I would like to realize myself in body work, live, with another person.

In addition, I would like to set up my own studio someday to receive submissions there. All this gives me a lot of practical knowledge about human sexuality. Also, in the future, when my psyche is in a better state and I am able to go to college, I would like to study psychology, specializing then in sexology. My work gives me a lot of knowledge about sexuality. About what people have problems with, what needs to be worked on.

I would like to find that balance at some stage, to combine both. It would be nice if the world changed enough to make it not a taboo subject.

Do you have any predictions for the adult industry in Poland?

I have the impression that the pandemic has changed a lot. A lot of people started to work sexually. Not only in Poland, but also globally. It’s just that it’s online work. But working as an escort, meetings and so on, are still taboo. This attitude still hasn’t changed. Sex for money is still tabooed, which worries me. I think it shouldn’t be that way. People have always had this need, and they still take advantage of it. 

There is a demand, there will be a supply. It’s a job like any other: online or live. What’s the difference between the work of a model, a physical, blue or white collar worker? Each of us sells our bodies for money.

Aleksandra Domeradzka, Wiktor Knowski